It is sad really, because it happens with women of all ages. Just slightly larger font . Dude, Im afraid your relationship has greater issues than whether its okay to chat with strangers online! Two of the pictures I have seen are face and body pictures. Was it that hard to FUCKING read a book or get a pamphlet of something? This week, one reader says that his girlfriend of three years sends pictures of herself to other men, while another wonders if she should leave her boyfriend who has decided he doesn't want a baby. The cousin immediately said aunties a ho! In relaying this story to me, she agreed with her cousin that auntie must be a ho if she has a whole box of condoms in her dresser and not even hiding them properly. . One of the pictures was sent to me by accident. and our Hi guys, there's this acquaintance of mine that I met through a male friend who wanted to marry her but later married someone else. . He was absolutely sure he was infertile. it wasnt even the fact that she cheated on me. I'm just wondering if other girls send pictures to their guy friends this frequently, as I haven't experienced it to this amount before. To be honest, this is out of my range of experience. If you opened with a selfie, there's a good chance she'll respond with one. Unintended are the ones that are altogether unwanted, or unwanted at this time. . Youre not a ho-bag for having protected sex. It was probably where you put the pictures, but maybe it was something else. Sorry but I am sick of people constantly making excuses for all the fucking idiots of the world that willfully clog the planet with their fucking unwanted and somehow even fucking dumber offspring. We moved in together around five months ago after being engaged for two months. maxbrooksmacbook 7 yr. ago. We would like to show you a description here but the site won't allow us. 18 Signs A Girl Likes You To Look For In Her Texts. I would see guys reacting at either extreme depending on their personality they would either highly like it and find it amusing and endearing, or they would hate it and find it awkward and embarrassing. End of story. IE 11 is not supported. Start using some damn birth control. IDK I think a lot of people do this with their second or third children, kind of like we are open to a child bu t if it doesnt happen, it wont be the end of the world. I'm 19 (M) and my friend is 18 (F). So the 50/50 number is actually correct. She says Im being insecure. For more information, please see our I have my developer on it now and hopefully things will be back to normal shortly! This was interesting to read, definitely helped me understand better. Usually, it means that your ex feels comfortable talking to you and that your ex wants to share a few updates on his or her life. I was illustrating that its not a new concept. And to see an outpouring of comments in support of BC will hopefully show the LW that not everyone sees it as slutty or as not-an-option. Oh.My.Goodness. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. The fact that youre questioning whether youll find a man whod want a child suggests its the child over the man youre seekingand I wouldnt be surprised if your man has sensed this. Most people who get accidentally pregnant deliberately act fucking dumb. The caveat being though that he called you selfish and conceited- which doesnt really seem to be the traits he should be accusing you of for this behavior. now she is pretty much getting abused by everyone for the shitty thing she did. If I thought that he innocently/naively intended the photo request to be a joke that turned out badly, I would tell him that you felt uncomfortable with his comment, ask him to refrain from making such comments in the future, then I would let it slide (assuming that he apologized for making you feel uncomfortable). Theres not a lot to be done about it, so you follow suit. @LW3, this guy is bad news. I actually kinda like it. He sounds like someone to avoid. . She initiates the conversation. Nope its not but the misinformation, stigma, and lack of access still continue in the U.S. today. I warned him He got a 22 year old pregnant (he is 32) and is now fighting custody and in a big mess. Birth control isnt a new concept. LW what you need to do is tell him, that pic was not for his eyes, & you would appreciate it if he never mentioned it again. Theres a big difference between the two. Thats life. WWS!!! I would have a conversation with him explaining that your intent was positive and you didnt mean to make him feel uncomfortable. Because she wants your attention and the response would be to send a flirty text of how attractive she looks lol. I think she was legitimately creeped out that he might be thinking about her in a sexy way. Exactly. Maybe she was put off by the comments but afraid to assert herself and show her disapproval? By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. He doesnt know I exist. Well, if anything, she probably is just freely sending you pictures because she herself thinks she looks good in then. Ive been a reader here on DW for years and I used to think you were somewhat charming with ascerbic undertones. My old eyes were grateful. I wasnt sure, so I just thought Id put out the non-creeped out way as well in case that resonated more with the LW. After he teased me a little, we totally forgot about it, never mentioned it again, and I of course deleted them from my phone. We arent going to implement those changes now (or ever), as we arent pregnant, but we know we could make our lives work if it came to that. And what you said about the stigma of birth control Ive started seeing in my own daughter, whos 15. . LW3 I know people who seem to be confused about how they got pregnant, but then find out that they arent using birth control. she started to send me vids of her hanging out with his guy which made me a little uneasy but i didnt say anything. by mamagee3 ( f ): 2:05am On Aug 15, 2015. After you initiate the conversation, warm up to the NSFW content. but then last night she was at a party and started snapchatting me. Is she trying to push you out the door? By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. We arent arguing as much as we thought we would. Is it okay for a woman to chat with male friends online all times of the day and night, explaining that I dont need to know who shes chatting with? You can say 50 years but the reality of the situation is not everyone in the U.S. has had unfettered access to BC or the education that goes along with making informed choices about their body. I think she should tell her husband and see how it goes. Stop fantasizing about him fantasizing about you. Coworker might have overheard me talking about them, I Dont Want to Have Sex with My Girlfriend Anymore, Should I Tell My Boyfriend I Drunkenly Kissed Someone Else?, My Husband Isnt Ready to Have a Baby, But Im Becoming Obsessed. . You can do a few things Ask her out if you feel inclined (like a date, not as friends) Ask her why she's sending you pics so often. It can be done. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. and our So I kind of side-eye the statistic that says nearly half of all pregnancies were unintentional. Like, my husband I are NOT trying to get pregnant, but we have talked about what would happen if we DID, and what that would mean for our finances, and decided that if we accidentally got pregnant, we know we could make the necessary adjustments to make it work. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. When he first told her she looked good because she lost like 60 pounds, I wonder how she reacted? It was just NEVER discussed. @LW2, did you ask him why he thought it was selfish? What do I even say to that? Cookie Notice mmm I dunno, I think at the end, when LW1 said do you think he thinks about my body too me, I think she may want him to, or is slightly turned on by it. Also, I knew about access to BC but the stigma of using it was so ingrained in me, it took me a looooooooooong time to figure that shit out. And they were well-educated and well-off. Archived post. NEWSFLASH! I never said people cant get their shit together. Lets just play it by ear and take it as it unfolds. I could see myself taking a similar stance if I were in a position to have children. This woman is 40 years old. They would first ask Was the pregnancy intended? If the mother said no, they would follow up with Then what type of birth control were you using. Fading Friends, Feeling Disconnected, Do I go on this trip? Seriously? I bet she smiled and was flattered. No guy wants to be used as a sperm bank. I cant help but think maybe he was encouraged to keep on pushing the issue? The language of your attempt was way out of his comfort zone and backfired. Privacy Policy. she is trying to flirt with him, she definitely likes him and waits for his reaction, its still inoccent but she is fishing for compliments. For me, it was seeing generations of my own family/ friends having unplanned pregnancies (myself included), so I imagine that for many people out there its kinda the same environment. Very true, imo i think it was way out of line, his reaction. about 100 people knew of me and her relationship, i had about 50 messages of my friends sending her story to me saying "dude do you know about this " and stuff. But lately, you have devolved into absolute vile bitchy bitterness towards anyone with a different life experience (especially women) than you. Thank you for sharing this Cleopatra. You probably wont give him revealing photos again, but, if you do, keep em private and out of public view (I mean, a steering wheel, really??). Having said that, his response was a bit harsh. @Cleopatra Has anyone told you how brilliant and awesome you are yet today? She is a professor emerita, has written 15 books, and her latest is Dont Bet on the Prince!Second Edition. Im with you on this. He was really annoyed it seemed, talking about how we plan when to buy a house, a car, when to change jobs, and we dont plan for one of the most important (and probably most expensive) thing in our lives. All rights reserved. . No hard data or peer-reviewed studies on this.mostly just common sense. Still, I think what this illustrates is there is a lot of diversity in peoples opinions as to whether these wishy-washy couples are trying to pregnant or no longer trying to prevent getting pregnant, and I for one would not consider what they are doing trying. I noticed the larger font too. Doesnt really seem too creeped out by this in my opinion. I suggest IUD and condoms (to protect against STDs). Maybe a friend (or two or three) saw them and teased him or made some other inappropriate remarks that bothered him. The same went for me growing up. , I completely agree with this. Can we just forget about this? If he doesnt back off, then drop him as a friend. For more information, please see our This week, one reader says that his girlfriend of three years sends pictures of herself to other men, while another wonders if she should leave her boyfriend who has decided he doesn't want a baby. It always seemed odd to me how many couples I knew in relationships (but not married) would not use multiple forms of BC in their most-fertile years. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. As someone who came from an environment in which BC was NEVER discussed, the idea of having the power to protect oneself from pregnancy was a totally foreign concept. With your boyfriends decision not to, and your own indecisiveness, it seems to be a poor choice to bring a child into the worldand possibly raise it begrudgingly for years to come. Well Being gay in the 1980s was even a far bigger taboo and yet somehow GASP! Over the last few months, things have gradually started to become more serious. so about a month ago i started dating this girl i met six months prior. I had before and after fitness pics in a sports bra and underwear, so not super racy but still not something I want spread around, and my friend that accidentally saw them was just like hey what are you showing me there!
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